Thy Will Be Done

Willpower. When it comes down to what really happens in power exchange, the will of the dominant overrules the will of the submissive. Either through a desire by the submissive to do so or because the will of the dominant is stronger or a combination of the two. This is obviously a bit simplistic, but it holds true.

When you have an especially strong willed submissive, you often have to prove and re-prove that you have the will, desire, and are deserving to be served.When your willpower flags, the other areas also suffer. If you are asking someone to submit, to execute your desires, they will be hesitant if you don't have the willpower to do the things you have said or indicated you would. This doesn't mean it will all end if you have a flagging moment or two...skip a day at the gym or eat that jelly donut instead of the protein bar for breakfast. But if you do it often, it will definitely impact your ability to lead.

This holds especially true if your desire to enforce an area of the P/E is what flags. These relationships require diligence and hinge upon controlling the actions and behaviors of the submissive, if you lose attention or interest in this they will feel neglected and hurt that you are not performing your role. As mentioned in an earlier post , it often isn't what you do, but what you don't do that ends up hurting the relationship.

If there are things that are impacting your sense of self and your willpower, as can happen due to stress, injury or fatigue; it is important you communicate this to your submissive. Just as you would expect her to communicate with you if there is something that will impair their ability to do the things you ask and require of them. Willpower is key part of motivation and when it is lacking it can be difficult to stay attentive and to do the things you want and need to do.

I recently went through a very large conglomeration of events outside of my P/E that are taking an enormous amount of effort, time and attention to work through. All of this sapped my energy and willpower to do the things for me that were important: exercise, eat right, sleep enough, and pay proper care and attention to my P/E. Things begin to look bleak as you see things you care about not getting done, and it is a massive effort to try to work on getting things back on track. Hopefully while there is still time to repair the damage rather than trying to start over and rebuild completely.

Remember, your will drives the relationship, if it flags the relationship suffers. Stay vigilant and attentive to try and keep it from declining too much.